Connecting+with+students

**1. ****Recast all problems as learning opportunities ** “Please coach me, don’t scold me” **2. ****Provide fail-safe relationships ** “A person like me really needs a fan club” **3. ****Increase dosages of nurturance ** “I need to believe that you really care” **4. ****Don’t crowd ** “When you get too close I will back away for a while” **5. ****Use the back door ** “If you can help me do well you are important” **6. ****<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif";">Decode the meaning of behaviour ** <span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif";">“I try to hide what I really think” **<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif";">7. ****<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif";">Be authoritative not authoritarian ** <span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif";">“Help me to control me” **<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif";">8. ****<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif";">Model respect to the disrespectful ** <span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif";">“Your respect helps build mine” **<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif";">9. ****<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif";">Enlist youth as colleagues ** <span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif";">“We are the only real experts on ourselves” **<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif";">10. ****<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif";">Touch in small ways ** <span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif";">“I watch little things you do to discover who you are” **<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif";">11. ****<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif";">Give seeds time to grow ** <span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif";">“Please be patient with me – I’m still learning” **<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif";">12. ****<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif";">Connect youth to cultural and spiritual roots ** <span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif";">“I need to know there is a purpose for my life”
 * <span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 16pt;">Connecting With Adult-Wary Kids **